How to Practice Daily Empowering Self-Talk

Ironically, the best way to practice good self talk is to listen to yourself. Become the observer of yourself and what you say.

You know we have something like 50 thousands or more thoughts in a day. We speak into our own personal life what we believe about ourselves. So the question to ask yourself is, “What am I telling myself right now?”

Do you find yourself repeating phrases often, over and over again like “things just don’t work out for me”, or “I’m the worst,” or “people aren’t there for me when I need them,” or “I’m too old”. The list of negative self-talk goes on..

Do you make dismissive phrases like “its just never enough,” or “Oh, don’t worry about it, no one cares anyway.”

These are just a few examples of things we say all of the time that point to a limiting belief we have about ourselves.

I challenge you with this question… ”is what you tell yourself true?”

A great way to become an observer of the stories you tell yourself and practice good self talk on a daily basis is to get a notebook or a journal. When you notice that you’re repeating yourself, write it down. Especially take notice when you make “always” or “never” statements.

Ask yourself, what is this about for me? How do I typically feel when I say this? What else could be true?

Then ask your trusted friends or family, “Do you hear me say this staement a lot?” “Do you think this is true about me?” "What do you perceive about me?”

The answers and evidence you receive may be surprising to you.

When you become aware of these self-talk phrases you think and say, you then have more control over them and can replace them with a better perspective of yourself.

First start out by making a 180 statement from what you tell yourself. For example, if you find yourself saying something like, “Nobody listens to what I say, “ reverse that statement with “People hear and understand what I have to say.” You’ll be shocked when you start seeing people respond to what you are saying. And you’ll start noticing when you are doing a behavior like over-talking, overstating a point, or maybe raising your voice or shouting.. that behavior will then become unnecessary.

People will start responding to you differently, and you’ll also feel heard and understood.

You’ll see then that maybe what you believe about yourself, is all in your head, or its true and you’ll be able to change that thought and that behavior.