A lot of people throw around the word boundaries when it comes to relationships. I choose to see them as what you allow, or don’t allow in your life. It begs the question, “Is that thing serving me and my best interest?”

Have you ever had to say, “ I loved you the best way I knew how to love you at that time I knew how to love.” ?

I had to, and then I had to move on.

Yes, being a hopeless romantic is a love addiction. Sure, that truth stings a little, but being on the other side of it will set you free. I had to learn the hard way..

What does the story look like after you've forgiven yourself? What now ? What’s next?

When you are going through a devastating time what’s the thing thats holding you back mostly? Is it a constant head conversation of resentment and regret? Do you keep telling yourself that you can't quite make it through?

Do you feel like everything you do or say in your relationship backfires? Do you feel like this isn’t how you thought it would look? Are you caught in an argumentative loop, or passive aggressive cycle?

Have you thought to yourself that maybe you have something to do with creating the kind of love you’ve been experiencing in your relationship?

You create a ripple effect in your relationship. It’s either going to be harmful or helpful. It’s going to be supportive or destructive.

Have you ever had the awful sense of feeling LESS THAN someone? It feels like you don't matter.

I've absolutely been there. You get the sense you're wasting time and someone is sucking the life out of you. You're wasting your energy looking for someone else's approval to validate your significance.

It's not about them. It's about the role you choose to play. It's about getting clear on how you see yourself, not how someone else sees you. However, getting clear on how they see you will help navigate how you respond.

Watch this video to learn how to step into more self-acceptance and love when you feel LESS THAN.

Let go of your judgements. Stop taking yourself personally. This is the first step, and actually the biggest step, in getting out of the self-punishing cycle.

Stop everything. Say this to yourself, “Even though I had that really shitty, terrible thing happened to me, I still love and accept myself.” That’s what it comes down to, self-acceptance.

These are the words that bring your dark self-talk to light. This is moving on. This is moving forward. This is letting go.

Ironically, the best way to practice good self talk is to listen to yourself. Become the observer of yourself and what you say.