Time Management as a Self-Love Language with Christie Heppenstall

In this episode …

Christie Heppenstall, a Coach & Time Strategist, returns this week to talk about how she found the key to being a high-aching women through self-love and time managment.

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SHOW NOTES

:25 min Aaron narrates

Self-love Language what is that? And what does that have to do with Time-management ?


And what if moving forward and up word meant taking a moment to step back and examine how you’re running your life.



I brought Christie Heppenstall back in the second have of this conversation to tell you all this. Christie helps high achieving women, and typically  moms to up level their life.


We only have a limited amount of time in our life to experience what we want to experience. 


Many times if you are running your life on a high level and not paying attention you can run into burn out. You can even lose a relationship over this and not even be enjoying the life that you’re living based on the stress involved trying to be a high achieving human.


So what if you took a step back to really examine your life and ask what’s  serving you and not serving. With the limited time that we have, you can do more of what you want to do.


I Christie works with time management and self love strategies and help those that want to enjoy the business and life they’re living.


2 min

Christie has been coaching for 20 years in a business and sales environment. It always comes down to the beliefs that people hold. 


Now she focuses on time managment and productivity in personal 1:1 coaching. 


Christie looks back over the last 10 years and wishes she had some one show her these skills, and now she’s passionate about helping other women in the same spot.

 

Christie was needing to find the perfect hack to make it work to try to have a sense of control and feel like she has a place in the world.


4 min

Now she works with women to help them recognize these common traits of really ambitious women. But the same formulas don’t work for business as they do for relationships.


Aaron asks about the lower and higher brain process and how it effects time managment and loving yourself. 


The lower brain wants to do all the actions that give us the reward like checking off the to-dos. But you’re actually in autopilot. 


But thats the least loving thing you could do for yourself and Christie argues that with others.


It’s all the energy and place you’re coming from. If you’re coming from a place where your cup is full it will be different with whatever you do.


All the days add up of to your life, but you’re doing it from a more authentic place when you’re taking care for yourself.


It’s not going to land the same way because your not loving yourself


6:30 min

Christie suggests getting outside of your bubble and outside of the chaos, no social media.. it’s an exercise to be with yourself.


And then you write down your genius moments of clarity when you are your true self. 


Start with what do you actually want in your life. Christie suggests planning out your eulogy, it’s a little dark, but it gets you to think bigger.


You’ll have a bigger reason why.


8:30 min

It’s taking out time for yourself to craft out the legacy and life that you want to leave. Thats the most self-loving thing you can do. 


You’re going this with your higher brain, your pre-frontal cortex. It’s whats best for you in the long wrong.


The lower brain asks what’s good right now, which will be a completely different result. 


To do lists are toxic and shame and guilt inducing.



9:50 min 

Christie’s way of replacing the To-Do List is every Sunday evening she sits down and gets everything out of her brain. 


You get everything out of your head that you feel you have to do. Half the battle is getting it out.


You cross things off that others could do or what doesn’t aline with your goals.


You add in what self care means to you. It’s taking time for yourself. Add it all to the list



12 min

You put it all into your calendar. Like booking a trip to Austin, you decide how long it’s going to take ahead of time.


Christie highly recommend morning time of 20 min before the kids get up. 


It starts with yourself. The Oxygen mask analogy can get people pleasy if we’re still doing it from a place of only doing it for others. 



14 min

Christie’s future self would tell her past self just to slow down and write down how you’re thinking and feeling. 


When you Slow down it will speed you up for what you really want in life.


You’re one thought away


15:50 min

Christie typically helps high performing women with a couple gives and realize that something’s got to give.



The problem internal struggle is perfection, people pleasing, and when you do something it doesn’t feel authentic.


They are overwhelmed because they look at their schedule and realize they have to do it all. 


The real help is discovering what thoughts and beliefs have us in this season of life. 


17:50 min

The women Christie works with are looking for peace, purpose, and simplicity.


You can contact Christie on her website Christieheppenstallcoaching.com and her instagram.com/christieheppenstall


Christie gives a detailed 5 step program for ridding your to-do list. 




20:10 Aaron Closes


Thanks so much for listening if you enjoy this episode and you rethought having a better relationship with yourself around time management. I’d love to know about it. Please leave a review and tell us your experience or share it with a friend.


If you’d like to connect with Christie Heppenstall you can find her on instagram.com/christieheppenstall Coaching or on her website Christieheppenstallcoaching.com


If you are hurt and heartbroken and would like to reclaim your self-worth and feel confident and whole again I’d love to support you. 


Feel free to follow me on Instagram.com/AaronTosti or connect with me at thekindoflove.com. 


You’ve been listening to TKOL podcast. 


I’m Aaron.

Best of love to you.





If you’ve found yourself heartbroken, struggling in harmful relationship patterns, you’ve had it and are READY to claim your self-worth and experience the kind of love you want… I’d love to serve you anyway I can. - Aaron Tosti